What I was looking for in a life partner were two main things, One was to find someone that would love my oldest son and be a great role
model for him. Two, was to have someone
that really had family values that would put our immediate family first.
At 29 and being a single mom for over 10 years, I thought
marriage may just not be in my future at all.
Then I met my husband. We were
friends for a few months before we went on our first date. I knew by the second or third date that he
was the one, about six months later we were engaged. A year later is where our
story began October 9, 20004.
Marriage is about two people growing together and having a family
if that is what you choose to do, but it’s important not to loose yourself during
the journey, because if you are not happy with yourself, how can you make others
happy.
1.
No matter
what the argument is about, who started it, who ended it, never go to sleep being angry with each other, or sleep in separate beds for the night.
2.
Even if you do not have two extra rooms in your
home, always let your other half have his man cave and you can have your lady
den or some small dedicated desk, corner, or nook, where each of you can
retreat and have your own things or knickknacks.
3.
Respect each other‘s time, when wanting to do
things on your own or with or friends from time to time.
4.
Date night can get very challenging when raising
children. I tried to put things on the calendar and it
wouldn’t work out, so once a quarter I’ll put a reminder date night and then
try to fit it in. I feel like we already have so many schedules,
appointments and deadlines that we shouldn’t have to be so stressed out if we couldn’t
make our date night work out.
5.
Find at least two things that you can do as a
couple together it can be as simple as watching a show you both enjoy, walk
your dog together or take a dance class.
6.
Last part and probably for him is the most
important thing on this list, which is very simple. Yes, ladies we are tired, we juggle 10
million things from the minute we wake up, but at the end of the day at least
once or twice a week you have to keep him satisfied in the bedroom.
7.
When you met him, he may have had some annoying quirks
that you may still be trying to change.
Give it up, use your energy to work on something that makes you both grow
together.
XOXO,
D. Blooming
